"In some ways it’s as if being an evangelical - or other fanatical Christian - hinders you from growing all the way up. And you are continually subject to the judgment and condemnation of your family - scolded like a child for having an opinion or a feeling that doesn’t blend with theirs. I think that that is one of the things that makes [evangelicalism] so hard to walk away from - you take that first step of questioning after you are used to being guided along - and are suddenly out on your own and having to get OK with the idea that its acceptable to think for yourself, and that you don’t have to be accountable to anyone if you don’t choose to be. Its that weird developmental stage of a teenager becoming an adult all over again."